Companion · 02
Coping with Conflict
When tension becomes hard to bear.
Who this is for
For you, if disagreements throw you off course, if you often find yourself wondering what is really going on, or if conflicts keep echoing in you long afterwards.
What it is about
Here, conflicts are not made to disappear but understood and worked through. Inside and out. The aim is not a “solution” at any price, but that you do not lose yourself in the tension.
More on this topic: understanding conflict without losing yourself →
What happens on the path
You do not begin with the conversation with others, but with your own inner processes: how conflicts arise through interpretations and threatened needs, how escalation unfolds step by step, and how emotional alarm turns into automatic defence, the drama triangle. Through the “black box” between stimulus and reaction, you find your way back to self-responsibility and a dignified understanding.
What you look at along the way
- · Separating the facts from the interpretation
- · Recognising stages of escalation early
- · Naming the needs behind accusations
Explainer video
Take a look.
A calm visual introduction to coping with conflict. The style is deliberately unhurried; you can let it run through once without taking any notes.
How you can begin
Choose your path
This companion is available as an app (audiobook and text), as an album of songs for the companion, and as a book series. You choose how you begin.
App · audiobook and text
The path works with concrete tensions, inside and out. The first exercises are unlocked from chapter 11 onwards; before that comes the reading build-up with mini-checks.
Open in the appSongs for the companion
First songs — the full album follows on Spotify and YouTube.
„Zwischen den Worten“
„Zwischen Bedeutung und Ereignis“
„Wenn es Fahrt aufnimmt“
„Wo es in mir beginnt“
„Auf welcher Ebene“
„Kein Feind aus dir“
„Was will ich schützen?“
„Raus aus der Rolle“
„Nicht mein ganzes Ich“
„Bevor der Zug losfährt“
„Der kleinste klare Satz“
„Ein Nein mit Würde“
„Nicht mehr im alten Drama“
„Ein Anfang, kein Schluss“
On to the other companions: Schema-B · The Prison of Valuation